Are you trying to understand your desires?  What if your partner can’t relate to what you need?  Do you feel like there’s no one to talk to about your kinky thoughts?

Many people struggle with getting their needs met. I coach individuals and couples in taking active steps to improve communication. This allows people to get what they need from their partners either intimately or emotionally. I can help anyone who wants greater fulfillment in an existing relationship. Couples with a mismatch of needs or erotic interests or who speak different love languages may particularly benefit.

I help individuals who seek to understand their needs or desire personal growth. Often all that stands in the way of your own development is you! Life coaching looks at patterns hindering our success and raises energy levels for fulfillment.

What is life coaching about?

Life coaching brings your life from functional to optimal, by examining what’s getting in the way of your success. Unlike therapy, we don’t focus on past trauma, choosing instead to look ahead and strive to meet your goals. Unlike a teacher or consultant, who brings expertise to fix a problem, coaching enables you to find unique solutions to your challenges. You are your best expert! I facilitate and guide the process. I combine a PhD in the anthropology of communication with training as a life coach, specializing in relationship and intimacy coaching.


Who do you coach?

I coach adults (18+) of all descriptions:  individuals, couples, or poly households. All genders and sexual orientations are welcome. I have an extensive academic background in queer theory and LGBT studies, so this is a judgment-free zone where personal exploration is welcomed and encouraged.

Do you only coach on kinky topics?

My coaching is not limited to BDSM. I coach on all issues. I have experience helping people manage health and fitness, achieve weight loss, improve workplace productivity, and more.

Is FLR or D/s coaching available?

Yes! As a dominant, female authority figure I bring a unique perspective to coaching. Sometimes in an FLR (female-led relationship) the female dominant knows what’s best for you and can nurture you through challenging times.

Where do appointments take place? Do I have to come to you?

I have a private office in central Connecticut. Safe, private off-street parking is available. If you don’t live in my area, I offer coaching via phone.